A contemplative approach to creating change without trying to control the outcome
How do I consciously participate in creating my life while remaining surrendered to a reality larger than myself? Over the years I’ve been intrigued by the topic of “manifestation,” the practice of consciously bringing a goal or desire into reality. Some writers take a psychological approach, which combines focused mental clarity, emotional alignment, and consistent, practical action, rather than passively wishing for outcomes. Others recommend a spiritual practice—stating an intention, cultivating absolute faith that what we desire is already ours—thereby eliminating doubt or feelings of lack—and opening oneself to receive the blessing. Both these approaches have elements that appeal, but I’m not a subscriber to a particular formulation.
However, I strongly believe in belief, which is a necessary component in both approaches. My experience with manifestation was more often unconscious rather than conscious. In other words, there were times when I experienced success using visualization and affirmations. And other times when desirable and undesirable realities showed up without any effort whatsoever. It was only by looking back that I realized there’d been a strong desire for something positive to come into my life. Sometimes it did. Sometimes it didn’t. And sometimes it was accompanied with negative experiences. Perhaps my desire was so deep, so subconscious, it lacked specificity. Be careful what you wish for—you might get it—with “strings.”
Three events precipitated my urge to investigate this topic—a conversation with a friend, noticing the connection between my thinking and unwanted realities that showed up and a chapter in David R. Hawkins book, Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender, which my daughter handed to me. His recommendation integrates the psychological with the spiritual: envision, see clearly—declare your intention—accept that you already have what you desire—act accordingly—relinquish attachment to the outcome. I especially appreciated his perspective on “wanting,” pointing out that it affirms I don’t have it. His bottom line is a paradox: Choose fully—and then let go; be not attached to outcomes.
There was an experience in the lifestyle department where I had subconsciously chosen fully, often thinking and proclaiming that Linda and I needed to move from our three-story house to a one-floor plan. At the same time I resolved that I didn’t want to move unless it was “absolutely necessary.” So I didn’t take any steps to manifest it.
Linda had a stroke. As a result, I was under tremendous stress for three months, undertaking the house maintenance, finances, shopping, food preparation and making 10-15 trips up and down three floors every day. With our health declining, we needed to move. Our daughter and son-in-law came to the rescue, finding the perfect place for us—an assisted living facility just twenty minutes from their home.
Professional Perspectives
Psychology offers substantial support for some elements of this process, without claiming that thought magically creates external reality. Maxwell Maltz, author of Psycho-Cybernetics, emphasized self-image: visualize the goal, experience yourself as already changed, and take relaxed action. Psychologist Albert Bandura’s work on self-efficacy demonstrated the importance of believing in our capacity to influence events through our actions. And researchers Edwin Locke and Gary Latham found that clear goals direct attention, mobilize effort and increase persistence.
Their approaches differ, but they converge on something important: intention changes the person who is interacting with reality. David R. Hawkins adds the spiritual dimension—act but relinquish emotional attachment to controlling the outcome.
For me, that’s the appeal. It isn’t “thoughts create things,” or making reality obey my will. It’s participating intentionally in life’s unfolding and trusting what comes next. It leaves open—as mystery rather than scientific fact—whether something more is occurring. The approach is alignment rather than control.
The appeal of these psychological approaches is not “thoughts create things,” making reality obey my will. It’s participating intentionally in life’s unfolding and trusting what comes next. For me, this leaves open the spiritual perspective that “the soul is the doer,” and “God’s will be done.” The approach is alignment rather than control.
No doubt, intention is powerful. It changes attention, motivation, perception, persistence, choices and behavior, and leaves open—as mystery rather than scientific fact—whether something more is occurring.
At the outset I mentioned my strong belief in belief. That’s because I see it as the foundation of intention. And I recognize two kinds—the belief in what’s possible (This can happen), and the belief in oneself (I am capable of participating in making this happen). I see both as being essential components in any manifestation process.
But what about the spiritual traditions that warn against desire? Buddhism offers an important distinction. The problem is not necessarily desire itself, but tanhā—craving or thirst: the grasping sense that “I must have this.” By contrast, chanda can refer to intention, interest or aspiration and, when directed toward what is wholesome, can motivate learning, compassion, service and awakening. The distinction is important: spiritual maturity need not mean wanting nothing. It can mean becoming free from the grasping and attachment that turn desire into suffering.
The Bhagavad Gita offers a similar resolution: act fully and fulfill your dharma but relinquish attachment to the fruits of your actions. Spirituality does not require passivity; it asks us to release our insistence upon outcomes.
Hawkins’ letting go fits naturally here. The crucial question becomes not “Should I have desires?” but “Where does this desire come from?” Fear, insecurity, status, comparison, and acquisition produce one kind of desire. Love, creativity, service, growth, beauty, and inner calling can produce another. A desire can therefore be contemplated rather than automatically pursued or suppressed.
Will also has a legitimate spiritual function. Desire supplies energy; intention gives it direction; will mobilizes and concentrates that energy; action embodies it. The danger comes when will becomes willfulness—the ego’s insistence that reality conform to its demands.
Belief provides the ground of possibility. We are unlikely to move wholeheartedly toward something we fundamentally believe impossible. Belief affects what we notice, attempt, persist in, and become. This gives us a more spiritually mature understanding of manifestation—not control, but co-creation. We listen inwardly, discern what genuinely calls us, bring our human capacities into alignment with it, act wholeheartedly, and then surrender the outcome.
That was helpful. The key is to understand where the desire is coming from—fear? status? insecurity? Or love, service, creativity, beauty, growth or a deep interior calling or aspiration? At the spiritual level I recognize that I am not the ultimate controller. I listen, trust and surrender. Thy will be done. At the human level, I’ve been gifted with imagination, desire, reason, intention, will, creativity, discernment and the capacity to act. It’d be wrong not to use them. Combining again, it’s a matter of co-creation.
So my summary formulation looks like this—
Listen → Discern → Desire → Believe → Intend → Will → Act → Trust → Surrender.
Applying this to my difficulty in sleeping:
Tonight I’m awake. Acceptance: this is what is.
I welcome peaceful, restorative sleep. Intention: this is what I invite.
I create conditions that support sleep. Action: this is how I participate.
I don’t have to make sleep happen. Trust: my body knows how to sleep.
I let go and allow what will be, to be. Surrender: I release the outcome.
In terms of contemplative photography, instead of approaching a landscape or subject asking How can I make this into a beautiful or compelling photograph? I arrive with my gear and aesthetic preferences in an open and receptive mindset, and pay attention to the energy of attraction: Let’s see what will be revealed here? That’s both intention and surrender.
Perhaps the spiritual challenge, then, is not to eliminate desire and will, but to transform them—from instruments of acquisition and control into instruments of participation, service, and growth.
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